When tragedy strikes, we stop to reflect on life and the realization that any moment could be your last day to spend time with a loved one or family member. Coping with the loss of someone or something you love and admire is one of life’s biggest struggles, but everyone deals with feelings of grief in different ways – and that’s completely normal. Below, we break down a few common myths surrounding the grieving process.
Myth #1 – If you don’t cry, you’re heartless.
Although crying is a recognizable sign of sadness, it’s certainly not the only one. People express pain in many different ways, and just because you don’t outwardly show it, doesn’t mean you feel nothing. It is valid to express your emotions in whatever way you see beneficial for you throughout the grieving process.
Myth #2 – The pain will go away if you ignore it.
Choosing to avoid emotional pain could only allow it to fester and become worse. For true healing to take place, try confronting your pain and proactively dealing with it. Consider talking through your emotions with a clinician, family member or friend if you feel that the burden is too heavy to bear alone.
Myth #3 – You should stay strong and brave in the face of loss and pain.
It’s normal to experience feelings of sadness, loneliness or fear when you lose someone or something you deeply care about. Take the time you need to feel those emotions. This does not make you weak. Working through those feelings will only assist in your journey toward coping and healing.
Myth #4 – Moving forward with life means you’ve forgotten about your loss.
Moving forward after a traumatic loss doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten about your loved ones – it means that you’ve accepted it. The memory of a lost loved one can remain with you forever, and this is important. These memories may become the things that shape who we become later in life.
We understand that the grieving process is different for every person, and if you or someone you know is looking for assistance in establishing healthy coping mechanisms, we encourage you to contact South Bay Community Services. We provide many services, talented clinicians and proper programs that help guide clients through these emotions.
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